Emotional smarts mean being really good at dealing with feelings—your own and other people’s. If you’re emotionally smart, you can figure out emotions easily and know the best way to react to them.
This helps a lot with getting along with everyone, whether at home or work.
If you’re wondering whether you’re emotionally smart, here are seven things you might be saying that could be a hint:
- “I’m not changing. This is who I am.”
People who are good with emotions know how to adapt and change. If you find change hard and always stick to what you know, it might be a sign to work on this area. Sure, it’s good to be firm in your beliefs, but being open to new ideas is key too.
Instead, try: “I’ll think about what you’re saying. Being open to different views is important, even if it’s tough.”
- “I don’t care how you feel.”
Not caring about other people’s feelings can be a sign of low emotional intelligence. Empathy is crucial, especially during hard times, to build strong, supportive relationships.
A better way to say it: “It hurts to see you upset. What can I do to help?”
- “It’s your fault I’m feeling this way.”
People with high emotional intelligence understand that their emotions come from their own thoughts, not from what others do or say. Emotions are a chance for us to understand ourselves better and set the right limits.
Try saying: “I’m feeling a lot right now. I think it’s because of…”
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